Why Good People Make Bad Decisions (How to Survive the Consequences)

It’s a relentless cycle that, if uninterrupted, locks you into a life of things you swore you would never do, ways you insisted you would never live, and relationships designed to keep you stuck on the wrong side of destiny. It’s not that you are bad-to-the-bone. It’s just a case of being what I call stuck-on-stupid with a bad case of the cain’t-help-its.

What’s with that Apple?

The apple could be anything that keeps recurring in your life the reasons for which you’re clueless. It can be people, places, circumstances, or events — anything that sets off your defensive triggers and blinds you to truth, thus diverting focus from the core matter.

THE KNEE ON THE NECK OF SOCIAL JUSTICE

Racism is the knee on the neck of social justice. People of color are being subjected to what I call “horizontal lynching,” in broad daylight and full public view. The only difference between the “strange fruit” of traditional lynching and lynching in the new millennium is that now the victims are laying in the street (or in their own beds) instead of swing from the trees.

Coach Interview Series: Dr. Linda F. Williams

This is a re-post of an interview I had with Mr. Brandon Baker of Life Coach Path. Our main objective here at the National Coach Academy is to enable aspiring coaches to reach their full professional potential. One of the most effective ways to educate students about the world of coaching is by offering them […]

TWO WAYS NOT TO “PLAY YOURSELF” IN 2020

“Playing yourself” means you self-destruct, self-disrupt, or self-defeat. We always talk about “getting played” when someone takes advantage of us or does us wrongly. In 2020, getting played is NOT the main danger. Playing OURSELVES is the destiny-disruptive risk.

Reality Check: Employee Engagement

Employee engagement and employee experience are not rocket science and they are not made effective by tactics or manipulation. As hard as they try, leadership doesn’t get to determine what is or isn’t engaging to the team.

hen that misconception is mixed with a lack of quantitative analysis, it’s wasted resources-pure and simple. When quantitative evidence is not contextually analyzed using qualitative inputs, it completely misses the boat. O. C. Tanner recently released the results of new research on this subject.

Too True to Tell: Confession of a Non-Transvestite

The day I got into an argument with a bill collector about whether I was a man or a woman was the day I decided no longer to correct the error with callers. From that day until recently I just answered to the random “Sir” without offence or explanation. But something happened a couple of years ago that shook that foundation. I shook it off, regained my bearings, and went on with business as usual. That is, until today . . .

Don’t Blame the Jelly: Breaking the Chain of Toxic Relationships

You’ve got to “bring it” to get it and to “bring it right” takes a process of inside-out healing from the past. There is no auto-magic, overnight list of do-betters that will result in the change you want in relationships. You have to address what’s wrong from the inside-out.

The reason we wind up in repeated non-affirming and unedifying relationships has less to do with known expectations, and more to do with the hidden expectations that elude us.

WHEN DOMESTIC VIOLENCE BECOMES WORKPLACE VIOLENCE

Domestic violence should be a concern for leadership. Well beyond the individual who suffers the mental or physical abuse, friends, family members, and coworkers’ lives are also vulnerable to potential violence. Anyone in close proximity of the victim is in potential danger. But it gets worse.

THE 6-MINUTE $20 MILLION SPEECH

Peabody Award Winner, Fred McFeely Rogers, has been lauded for cinching the $20 million funding for public television. What is less discussed is what it was about his testimony that won the day. Here is what can be learned from this crucial 6-minute speech that gave the committee leader “goosebumps for the first time in two days.”