“Playing yourself” means you self-destruct, self-disrupt, or self-defeat. We always talk about “getting played” when someone takes advantage of us or does us wrongly. In 2020, getting played is NOT the main danger. Playing OURSELVES is the destiny-disruptive risk.Read More TWO WAYS NOT TO "PLAY YOURSELF" IN 2020
The day I got into an argument with a bill collector about whether I was a man or a woman was the day I decided no longer to correct the error with callers. From that day until recently I just answered to the random “Sir” without offence or explanation. But something happened a couple of years ago that shook that foundation. I shook it off, regained my bearings, and went on with business as usual. That is, until today . . .Read More Too True to Tell: Confession of a Non-Transvestite
You’ve got to “bring it” to get it and to “bring it right” takes a process of inside-out healing from the past. There is no auto-magic, overnight list of do-betters that will result in the change you want in relationships. You have to address what’s wrong from the inside-out.
The reason we wind up in repeated non-affirming and unedifying relationships has less to do with known expectations, and more to do with the hidden expectations that elude us.Read More Don’t Blame the Jelly: Breaking the Chain of Toxic Relationships
Again, Starbucks corporate office rightfully apologized for an unfortunate, poorly handled, incident at one of their stores. Given the company’s history of addressing similar matters, they took further action to ensure no further such occurrences. There appears to be no transparency, however, with respect to what that action entailed. But that is a matter for another blog post. Let’s hit the rewind button here.Read More CUSTOMER COMPLAINS – STAFF CALLS OUT THE “FIRING SQUAD”
Many successful and powerful people are suffering stress and chaos perpetuated by a past that they do not realize is affecting them. I am a prime example. While I saw life through trauma-stained glasses, I earned two degrees, had songs recorded by a famous singing group, wrote a thesis that resulted in a Prison Fellowship partnership for an ex-offender reintegration program in my area. Everybody was impressed. The whole time I was clueless-at-the-helm because my personal life was in shambles and I did not know why. Many lives are affected by a single life changed. I live to facilitate that change in others.Read More Don’t Chase the Marketplace! Cause the Right Market to Chase You
In my opinion, the greatest misinformation we women have received is that you have to act as a man to get ahead in a man’s world. How’s THAT working for us? All the emotional intelligence training this side of the sun is no good absent overcoming the lie that being someone else, of any gender, […]Read More Who Decided Pink was Blue? One Man’s Message to Women Leaders
Today marks the 25th anniversary of the day we lost my father. Friday, June 25, 1993 perpetuated untold grief, but also has become a pivotal moment that marked a defining crossroads in my life. I wrote this over 20 years ago after visiting my father’s home town and seeing the house in which he grew up. It was my first Family Reunion and the old homestead stirred memories of stories he told about growing up.)Read More I LOST HIM: THE LOVE OF MY LIFE